There are a lot misconceptions about BDSM and D/s relationships but one of the ones that seems fairly common is the notion that they are not romantic and loving, particularly with reference to the dominant partner. The steely-faced humourless dominant, both male and female, who remain mysterious and aloof and possibly even cold towards to their submissive who are utterly in love with them is a stereotype that features in swathes of so called, BDSM fiction. The result is that many people assume that is how all D/s relationships are.
For us, and many other D/s couples we know, that couldn’t be further from the truth. Our life is full of love, happy laughter, silly fun and romance. There are even love letter written on bits of paper and left tucked inside Christmas presents which when I find them make me cry soppy happy tears.