Punishment is not part of everyone’s D/s, but it is certainly part of ours. In my mind it is a very important thing. It gives a path to resolution, a way to know that you are forgiven for a transgression.
That is important. We all want to live our lives happy and smiling but sometimes thing go awry and mistakes get made. I know one of the things that can really get under Molly’s skin is feeling like things aren’t resolved and that the general feeling that things are wrong will just keep on being in the background of our lives.
For me setting a punishment creates a clear line. A way that she can know that after it has happened that there is no cause for worry or trepidation. Once punished she is forgiven. That is important for me too. I don’t want to have to continue to ponder on what went wrong. I need to be able to move on too.
We do have slightly different ideas on how punishment should be handled. She would like one singular event, and that will often be the case. For example her punishment for leaving the hairbrush on the bed. Other times I think that one session isn’t enough to make the point clear to her (or that one might not be enough to make me feel it is resolved) and so I will plan a few over the course of a couple of days, much to her chagrin.
What I always hope I make clear is that once she has been punished it is over. She no longer needs to feel guilt or worry, she only needs to learn not to make the same mistake again.
Let’s see if I can find a way to convince her of that.
P.S. My love, go and fetch me something to use on your bottom, your choice.