This is a post I shouldn’t write because it won’t do anything except maybe keep my head from exploding.
But you know what? Fuck it, I am going to write on this topic anyway because I am damn tired of other men saying stupid ass shit and making ME look bad and I am going to name names because I don’t (and probably never will) have a good reputation.
I am talking about Essex Lad, and this young man claims to have the keys to, well, everything.
How to pick up women? Check
How to have amazing sex in 5 steps? Check
How to conquer the adult website world? Check?
How To Make Big Money Online With Fake News? Check
How to teach you be be an all around dickhead? Check
Now I don’t care how old you are, you can learn useful things from almost anyone, but sometimes what you learn is what not to do. To quote Oli himself
Older people have a tendency to stop learning new things, as I’m just getting started. So, give me a chance and don’t judge till you’ve experienced full blown Oli ;).
Well there you have it, you can learn from him, but you certainly can’t learn from me. Now I am not really a sweary guy, but reading his site(s) have made me swear a blue streak.
Here is what he thinks about the sex bloggers that are out there.
I set up Essex Lad purely because there’s nothing like it. I read, watch and listen to a lot of the best sex bloggers the internet has to offer and I’d say that most of the time I’m left unimpressed with tips/advice that barely work or translates into real life.
I don’t have anything against anyone making a living. But I take great exception to someone who is, when it comes right down to it, a marketing scheme. He is just throwing shit against the wall and hoping that something sticks.
Here is one of the sites he runs http://girlversusmakeup.com/about-me/ Odd that “Lauren” is also 20 and has lived in Spain for most of their life, all seems rather coincidental to me. (and the site is registered under his name)
Even if I just focus on the Essex Lad site and the advice given I am appalled. It is misogynistic, pick up artist crap that reduces human relationships to gimmicks and games and devalues anything that is not within the realms of his notions of “High Value” relationships.
You might have noticed that I have not linked to his site (and whatever you do, don’t google it) because I don’t want to give him a single click of traffic and donotlink.com seems to be down for the count, but I have used the wayback machine to snapshot a small sample of his site
I don’t want you to think I am picking on the poor lad. I am not, I would call out anyone that I thought was giving the same terrible advice and I have attempted to engage with him on twitter to no avail.
So I make this offer to Oli, contact me however you like and I will setup a Skype call for us to talk and I will record it to share (unedited)with my readers so that you can tell me your side of the story. Because as it stands I think you are doing men, and sex bloggers a great disservice.