There are disappointing people in every walk of life, some of them are actively disappointing and some of them are just unthinkingly disappointing. It is especially sad when a person of note lets you down.
It happens, we all have people we look up to and respect and sometimes many other people feel the same way that you do and it feels personal when they fall off that pedestal that they have clambered up on (most people work for fame, it is a very few that have fame thrust upon them) and reveal themselves to be fallible like the rest of us.
I have often wondered if it is reasonable to hold these people up to a higher standard, and after much reflection I have to say yes. These people can often sway the opinions of many others with their views and attitudes. Like it or not people like the Kardashians do influence millions of people and profit from that, so they must be held more accountable when they fall.
The same rules have to apply to all fields of endeavor that people excel in, even BDSM. Their are certainly Fetlebrities out there, and Molly and I have met a few and mostly they haven’t let us down. The difference (I hope) is that you have to acknowledge the errors you make in BDSM or people will call you on it. You might get away with being a dick for a while, but in the end you will find your willing play partners fading away like the audience at a Bay City Rollers reunion show.
The best bit of advice I can give you is from a show promoter back when I was on the road.
“Be nice to people on your way up, because you will see those same people again on your way back down”
I think that sums it up nicely, don’t you?