Tag: Communication

  • Talk to me

    Talk to me

    You are not the boss of me And I am not the boss of you, unless that is what we have negotiated. I have decided that I need to revisit my views on communication. It is often described as a cornerstone of D/s that constant communication is utterly necessary within scenes and play negotiation, and…

  • Familiarity Breeds Contempt

    Familiarity Breeds Contempt

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    You meet someone new, and you feel the spark, the heat, the possibilities of learning all about them. So you tear each other up as if there was not going to be a tomorrow, the kind of desperate fuck that often only happens at the beginning or end of a relationship. Unless you are lucky.…

  • I am the Great and Mighty Dom

    I am the Great and Mighty Dom

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    I am not perfect, I am (and this will come as a surprise to many) just an ordinary human. I know this will diminish my Domly reputation but I am often in the wrong and I will freely own up to that. To deny that would just be plain dumb and while I am often…

  • The Art of the Deal

    The Art of the Deal

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    Don’t panic, this is not about The Donald, but it is about negotiation Since there have been a larger number of comments on the recent post by Molly (not mine of course because she is a much better writer than I am) most notably Lee’s comments. I wanted to address what I see as what…

  • You Did it My Way

    You Did it My Way

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    I really detest “One Twue Way-ism, (even if it is my way) why would there only ever be one way? That assumes that we are all the same and that something that works for you must then work for me. This leads to the horrific listicles found in magazines, both for men and for women.…

  • Fight Night

    Fight Night

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    Hello, and welcome to the World Dom/sub Federation Fight Night! We have an action packed card tonight with the Main Event contenders Molly and Michael (Audience boos and cheers) So without any further ado… Let’s Get Ready to Rumble! Ok, so that might have been a bit of hyperbole, here is the sensible question that…

  • Question Time

    Question Time

    One of the things he used to say to me all the time early on in our relationship when we were long distance was ‘ask me a question’. The first time he did it I didn’t think anything of it but instead took a moment to think of something I wanted to know and fired…

  • Dear Mr. Fantasy

    Dear Mr. Fantasy

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    Another day, another post and this time I will waffle on (an expression I have learned from Molly) about Fantasy. Recently I’ve been having an exchange with @euclideanpoint on the topic of fantasies and what details matter. This led to the post Takeaway. I also of course had a discussion about this topic with Molly…

  • It’s not just a job

    It’s not just a job

    …it’s an adventure I have had many terrible blow jobs. What Michael? You aren’t grateful that a woman (I say woman because I am so boringly heterosexual it hurts) has deigned to put your cock in her mouth? Yes indeed dear friends, that is just what I am saying, while I believe there is some…

  • Trust Me

    Trust Me

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    Trust is very important in so may aspects of life and doubly so when it comes to D/s. After all I am in a position to cause a great deal of harm to Molly. You might note that I use the word harm. I use that word because for us there is a huge of…